A Facebook User Honey Phoenix EvaristÂ has shared a story of how her pastor allegedly harassed her sexually at his home during a retreat.
According to her, she was 22 at the time and her mother had sent her to the pastorâ€™s house to undergo deliverance because she â€œrefused to act like a christianâ€.
In 2013 my mum told me I needed deliverance because I refused to act like a â€œchristianâ€ she took me to a pastor of Omega Fire Ministries (OFM) he said I will do a retreat with him for one month so i went back home to pack my stuff.
This man would always enter my room without knocking. His hands would linger around my breasts when he hugs meâ€¦I was uncomfortable but i tried to bring my â€œmind out of the gutterâ€.
We used to have night prayers and he would prolong the prayers till his heavily pregnant wife got tired and heâ€™l encourage her to go to bed and restâ€¦once she leaves he starts to tell me how much he loves me and how I donâ€™t need deliverance because there is nothing wrong with me,and how i am a nice girl who her parents misunderstood.
I was not all that surprised and i tried to take advantage of the situation. I would miss prayers or evening service because i knew he wont do anything about it.
But then his wife started to notice that i had too much freedom.and what surprised me was that he did not seem to careâ€¦he would try to kiss me when his wife was just one room awayâ€¦he would wink at me when her back was turnedâ€¦he would hold my hand at the back seat of the car when we are returning from night vigil. He was like a lovestruck teenager.
I began to avoid him and it made him more desperateâ€¦one time he asked if i was avoiding him and I made him know i did not like what he was doing and he told me if i want his P.A could arrange for us to have a quiet time somewhere.
I had to tell the Assistant pastor all that was going on. I still recall the tears and the look of unbelief on his face that night.Â The assistant did nothing about itâ€¦but advised me to pack my stuff and leave before things get out of hand. But I couldnâ€™t leave because the â€œretreatâ€ was not over.
One night at the night vigil at OFM headquarters in Auchi i went to confide in a friendâ€¦and my fatherâ€™s driver overhead everything and he told my dad once we returned to Abuja.
The sad part about it all was that my parents called the pastor and his wife to ask themâ€¦instead of me. And they heaped it all on me. They said i have been misbehaving because I am tired of the â€œretreatâ€ and i sleep during prayers, I donâ€™t go to the evening services and i have come up with accusations because i want to go.
The good thing was that I moved back home.
Till today I wonder what sort of brains the pastorâ€™s wife had in her head.
While some of the commenters expressed sadness at the story, others blatantly refused to believe in what she said because â€œthere are three sides to a storyâ€.
One commenter said:
Why is it that most parent donâ€™t believe their daughters whenever this kind of issue comes up. My mumâ€™s tenant daughter was suffering serious sexual abuse from her auntâ€™s husband (her motherâ€™s elder sisterâ€™s husband). The girl ran away from them & came to report to her mother but she didnâ€™t believed,the man was still even coming to have sexual intercourse with the girl in her motherâ€™s house whenever the mother is not in. He usually tell the girl never to inform anyone or else she will die. The girl was suffering in silence due to her motherâ€™s non-challant attitude till the day I caught the man in the act. I gave him the most humiliating embarrassment of his life that day.
See other comments:
- My cousin is encountering similar situation. This is a serious issue!Â A certain prayer warrior that her mum always bring to the house because the girl is â€œpossessedâ€ . Itâ€™s a very sad story. It hurts me everyday.
- I came to check your page out, and honestly itâ€™s obvious your parents were right, going through your photos you indeed needed a deliverance. How true your story is I canâ€™t tell, but I have definitely seen more crazier folks than you are making up stories. So I dare not believe until we hear the side of the alleged pastor.
- In as much as i try to believe your storyâ€¦. I seriously canâ€™t cos thereâ€™s always three sides of every story.Â Your story..Â The pastorâ€™s story and the real truth. My dear you just told us your own side of the story. We have to wait for the pastors side then the side of the real truth.. Â Sorry i doubt your storyâ€¦â€¦