Fountain of Life Church Pastor Taiwo Odukoya Writes About Infidelity & The Sanctity of Marriage, The question usually is: Why did he /she do it? Are we all exposed to the same temptations that make some fall into the trap of infidelity? Can we better handle such situations, when they come, and thus avoid making a mess of our marriage?
Also known as extramarital affair, infidelity is described as ‘voluntary sexual intercourse between a married man and someone other than his wife, or between a married woman and someone other than her husband.’ In other words, it is having sex with someone who is not your spouse.
Two issues can be clearly identified in infidelity: the act and the thought. Generally, a married person is unfaithful to his or her spouse if he or she physically engages in sexual acts with someone who is not his or her spouse. Adultery does not just happen; it starts in the mind.
Statistics published in the January 2014 edition of Journal of Marital and Family Therapy showed that one or both spouses in 41% of marriages admitted to physical or emotional infidelity. Thirty-six percent of such infidelity was discovered to have occurred with co-workers, while 35% happened during business trips.
In fact, many researchers have come to the conclusion that:
- over a third of married men will cheat on their wives;
- nearly a quarter of all married women will cheat on their husbands; and
- more than 50% of all marriages will be impacted by one of the spouses being unfaithful.
Why do people do it?
The truth is, a person has an affair when there is something that triggers him or her to defy the very vows he or she made, on his or her wedding day, to be faithful to his or her partner. Such would include:
- Unnecessary familiarity with the opposite sex.
- Sexual deprivation at home.
- Revenge or unrestrained anger.
- Uncontrolled sexual habits before marriage.
- Financial problems. SEE MORE ON PAGE 2