This lady first attacked her mother-in-law, now
sheâ€™s attacking her husband.
Donâ€™t know the genesis of their dispute but the
family has been fighting dirty in public for a while now.
Â Meanwhile, all these are allegations until you hear
from the other parties involved. Read the statement sent to us
Â In what she describes as â€œA Hell
Called Marriage In Onwuliriâ€™s Homeâ€,
the embattled daughter in-law to former Minister of State for
Education and later Foreign Affairs, Lady Viola Onwuliri has
granted a detailed interview based on her experiences from marriage
and domestic violence. Christina Onwuliri (Nee Amaefula) who is
married to the former Ministerâ€™s son,
Chukwuemeka Osmond Onwuliri explains why her documents were seized,
and to what really led to the detachment of her two daughters.
Most people are wondering why such issue became a public
Some people kept asking why this matter became a public
affair. What would I have done when I tried all I could to hide
this issue from my dad and close family members? There was nobody
around my husbandâ€™s place that I
didnâ€™t talk to. Some were unable to speak. Some
were scared to get into the matter because of his
mother.Â Â Some were looking out for an
opportunity to cause more harm to our marriage. The one that pains
me the most was when I took it to our marriage sponsor. I expected
a better resolve towards it. At least when disagreement occurs in
marriage, one would either try resolving it, or to even talk to a
family member that understands. But here, I protected it from my
family, to an extent that they will call to know what was
happening, yet I will pretend to the very high level that nothing
happened just to keep my home. When it ran out of hands with abuse
after abuse, I went to see our marriage sponsor. He claimed to
understand the whole situation, but later, I was disappointed to
see him trying to seduce me. He promised to offer anything that
will bring happiness to my life only if I will go to bed with him.
What happiness? When my home is on fire? When I
canâ€™t even enjoy the joy of marriage? I felt
highly disappointed and depressed. It was as if nobody was around
for me. I could have called my family, but their option may not
have been the best then, because the treatment I was getting is a
total insult to them, especially to my dad.
When your family later knew of what you were passing
through, what did they suggest or do?
When my dad later knew of what happened, he silently called my
husband, asking him to secretly dissolve the marriage in Canada
since it wasnâ€™t working. And I knew why he told
him that. He never wanted our problem to be at the public. He made
that suggestion to save the image of my
husbandâ€™s family, especially the mum who was
serving as a Minister then. But, my husband
didnâ€™t oblige to it till when we returned to
What led to your return to Nigeria?
It was in one of the interferences of my mother in-law. She
said that my husband is not obliged to keep me in Canada where we
based or elsewhere in the world. And after this encounter with her,
my husband told me we will be visiting Nigeria in February. I had
no misgivings about it.
When we arrived to the family house in Owerri, I noticed the
presence of a Catholic priest, Rev. Fr. Jude Onuoha, a serving
Honourable member at the Imo State House of Assembly, Hon. Mike
Iheanetu and few others that I donâ€™t know their
names. Later, I noticed that my husband picked up a bag and was
leaving without prior information to me. Cautiously, I approached
him to know where he was going, but to my greatest surprise, he
violently pushed me into a room and locked me up.
At that point, I saw those men taking my children away without
my consent. Then, I started screaming and was helpless but had no
option than to start breaking the window panes in the room to get
myself out. When they saw I was breaking the glasses, one of the
drivers opened the door and I came out shouting for help, and then
my children were nowhere to be found.
What exactly will you say made them to seize your
You know I have dual citizenships. Through marriage, he came
to Canada on Immigrant Status basis. They donâ€™t
want an immediate termination to all these benefits, and
thatâ€™s why they are working so hard to paralyze
from taking steps at least till their consultations. I have been
used here. I have been humiliated. I have been traumatized. But I
kept asking, is he not the same man that promised to love and
cherish me as a wife? What went wrong? What did I do to him? Even
if every other person fails to understand the challenges we faced
as a family, why will his case be different? I have sacrificed
everything to keep this marriage, yet, he kept frustrating my
efforts with his actions. Is it when I die from domestic violence
that I will be appreciated as a wife?
From the pictures released by your husband, one would be
wondering how you went about to cause that number of damages. How
true were those pictures?
When I saw them, I got surprised at it all. I wondered how it
all happened. But no matter the circumstances, I like being
truthful to myself first. One is that I told you I damaged the
window pane to get myself out of the house when I got locked up.
Itâ€™s self-defense. What surprised me most after
all that happened were numbers of photos released. I saw areas I
didnâ€™t even visit. I saw damages beyond what I
placed my hands on. I never did all that. Heaven knows, I
didnâ€™t. It was their own buildup to make their
claims look real and strong. Besides, how could they have allowed
me to cause that number of damage when they were all around? They
are out to destroy me and the image of my family. I never did all
He even accused you of being mad?
You read it! And we are here now, at least you asked for this
very interview probably to hear from me and to observe if
Iâ€™m mad as he claims. You are now in a better
position to read his lines of accusation one after the other, and
then refute them yourself based on the true fact
youâ€™ve seen. I am not mad. I never suffered from
madness. And I will not suffer from one. Remember, this is a man
who came and asked for my hand in marriage. Traditionally you know
what it is to enquire about somebody you want to marry, and which
after being satisfied with it all, you boldly go on to ask for the
personâ€™s hand in marriage. He did all that, and
we also did ours. We are not here to accuse anybody of anything in
the past we saw before going into our marriage agreement. But why
are they accusing me and my family wrongly? What is our offence?
They took away my little daughters. They took away my traveling
documents, passports and academic certificates. What for?
He claims that his late father gave your dad his job as a
lecturer. How true is it?
No single truth around it at all. They did nothing. Even when
his mum took my credentials to get me a job, what happened? She
kept misplacing them. Whether she was saying the truth or not, I
canâ€™t tell. But I know she never took anything
about me serious because she hated me. Iâ€™ve been
called to represent my husband at most family meetings, but she
will walk me out saying Iâ€™m not a member of her
family. Or is it the one that concerns my family? The only time she
visited my fatherâ€™s house was during the
traditional wedding where she spent just four hours and left. Since
then, she has not visited again. We even had issue of who visits
our home from my fatherâ€™s family house. They
enlisted names of people they would want to come to the house or
not to come. When I questioned that, they said they never wanted my
people to finish their money. What money? These were people coming
to visit their sister and daughter who left home for
In Port Harcourt as well, whenever his mum will be visiting
us, she will come with her own food in a flask. At a point, he told
the son that whenever she will be coming to Port Harcourt and finds
out he is not at home that she will not stopover. What did I not
pass through? I passed through hell in their hands.
Please, donâ€™t forget, my dad got employed
as a lecturer in 2006, and then weâ€™ve not met
any member of their family before. Remember, we met around 2011.
And till this time, Iâ€™m yet to find out how they
gave my dad his job.
When did the attitude of your mother in-law changed towards
She never had it comfortable being with me as the
sonâ€™s wife. I noticed it, even as I stood not to
accept the marriage, but then, my husband was so desperate to get
me into the family. Even when I confronted him over the
mumâ€™s discomfort towards me, he would cover it
up with words like Iâ€™m getting married to him
not his mum. And then, I would wonder what I was coming into the
family to do when I canâ€™t see his mother as my
own my mother. But something solidified my position of acceptance.
His late father did. The late Prof stood against all wrongs in the
family that we were all afraid to dare his principles. Well
respected man with great values, he gave me all confidence to be a
member of his family. But when I went through abuse, depression and
rejection, he was nowhere around to stand by me. He was nowhere to
consolidate on his words to me and to my family. I think his death
caused the biggest damage.
What further happened after the death of Professor
My mother in-law took over everything by becoming a mini-god.
She decides who stays and goes. I couldnâ€™t even
suggest what my husband could listen to. Even all advises ended up
in the motherâ€™s ear. It was as if I had no
confider again. At slight issues, he would raise his hands and will
beat me like a common criminal. Between 2011 and 2014, while I was
living in Port Harcourt with my husband, he physically and mentally
abused me. For example, when arguments concerning on way forward in
the marriage, he gets infuriated and physically beats me and locks
me up in the toilet for as long as he wishes. I will cry and cry,
but tears will dry without anyone consoling me.
Do you think your husband cheated on you?
It depends on the type of cheating. If you mean the kind of
cheating that involved him with another woman, I
wouldnâ€™t know. And I canâ€™t
accuse him wrongly. But if itâ€™s based on the
fact that he masturbated while in my presence, and even as he moves
with some male friends as if they were dating, I think I will agree
Masturbated in your presence?
Of course, he did. It irritated me so much that I
didnâ€™t know what to do. I felt a time why he
would engage into such. I mean, Iâ€™m his wife and
he had me around. What stopped him from taking me to bed to catch
some relieve of whatsoever? He would just be masturbating, while I
will be there crying. Most times he would travel after my mum would
have sent sum money for my up-keep and that of the family, but he
will disappear with it only to return looking so weak. The truth is
that he is a gay. He lied to his mum just to stay overseas, because
he knew thatâ€™s where he can only stay to indulge
in such habits. While in Canada, he was bringing men to our home,
even as he would sleep with them on our matrimonial bed.
Why was your mum sending money for the
You know my husband lost his job at Schlumberger, and his
papers were stamped unemployable. Since then, we have tried getting
another job for him but no way. Even his mum who was a Minister
could not get him a job. At least to tell you how serious it
Why did he slap the French woman?
He said he canâ€™t work under a
woman. And at slight times, he would brag of his mum being a
Minister. He even said that if the French woman tries misbehaving
that the mum will use her contacts against her. When he lost his
job, I wondered why his mum couldnâ€™t save the