Couples Preference For Male, female children: How couples can tackle disappointment? Mike clutched his wife’s hand tight, leaning ever so slightly towards her face. The doctor caught the movement from the corner of her eye and smiled. Then she handed the baby to Judith. Judith froze. Mike looked at her and saw the tears streaming down. The pastor had been specific when he said it would be a boy. The scan had also predicted same. As she held the baby in her hands, she felt the tears of disappointment flow and she sighed. She couldn’t believe she almost felt hate for the newborn.
Gender disappointment is a recurrent trend among many couples, especially in the Nigerian setting where preference is usually attributed to the male child. Even if the couple has no particular preference, in terms of a child’s sex, pressure from outsiders can further increase the possibility of disappointment in the sex of the child. As such, it is not uncommon to find couples developing feelings ranging from hatred to indifference, especially when the gender of a child is different from expectations. See more on page2